I have already been known to be extremely crucial of marriage.
I have already been heard to state there are only 2 reasons for people to marry – fear and also responsibility.
Fear of losing someone, fear of not being able to manage someone throughout their life, anxiety about change, anxiety about sharing, anxiety about reality, anxiety about infidelity.
Obligation – because we are validated by marriage, because our companion wants us to marry them, because do not want to be seen as a commitment-phobe, because we are miseducated, because we are told that marriage is essential with regard to parenting, because our religion sold us the lie, because everybody else made it happen, because we should.
Concern and Obligation were my primary reasons to clarify why people married.
But now I have a third reason – STUPIDITY.
We are ashamed of personally.
Inde i forgot that people never think that a lot. I omitted to account for the actual sheep-like behavior from the human. Inde i denied people their genuine nature. I allowed myself to make a good assumption – a good assumption that people needed a reason to create a decision that would effect the remainder of their lifestyles.
In reality, people never think. Instead they do. Instead they do what exactly they are told and also offered.
Hence the financial success of religion. Hence the strength of government and also corporations. Hence the actual fiscal irresponsibility from the masses. Hence the health issues of so many. Hence the mess we are all in.
STUPIDITY is prevalent.
STUPIDITY is the reason many people marry, and then divorce.
It’ s not always a determined decision. It’ s not always reasonable. It’ s not even practical. It’ s just STUPIDITY.
“ Wow, my boyfriend wants me personally. I’ m 25. He asked me to marry him or her. I love him or her. Yes, okay. I actually do. ”
Not, “ Hang on a second, I’ m only 25 and also I’ ve only had four serious interactions and none of them lasted a lot more than two years, and today I think I can spend the rest of my life with this particular one person which i kind of like! ”
STUPIDITY – according to false hope, lies, and also miseducation. A few of you may also claim that it is naivety. But that just proves my point – you have all seen the actual divorce rate and also the misery that only marriage can manage.
Therefore, I am sorry to those of you who Inde i admonished for getting married because of fear and also responsibility.
I am sorry for making a good assumption that you might have believed things through for your long run and for your children.
Inde i accept now that there is certainly often no real rhyme or reason or even thought put into these monumental decisions.
There’s always been a 3rd reason that I had not allowed personally to think about – STUPIDITY.
When you really think this through, you will see that either you do not need marriage or you should not marry – you do not need marriage because marriage guarantees absolutely nothing (except divorce), and you ought to stay away from married because then you base your decisions and actions about the truth (and not on the fairy tale).
Harsh. But genuine.